Nights of Remembering, Days of Healing
Lately, I’ve had a few sleepless nights — the kind where old memories quietly creep in — and the weight of worry and sorrow feels heavy. I’ve been reflecting on my own childhood — the pain I carried in silence — and realizing how those old wounds still find their way into my present moments. Now, as a grandmother, my heart aches in new ways. My grandbabies live far from me, and not being able to protect them brings a kind of worry that never really rests.
But I’m learning that healing doesn’t mean forgetting or erasing the past. It’s about learning to live with it — to soften its grip, to make peace with what was, and to grow from what remains. This space is part of that journey — a place to share the messy, honest, and beautiful parts of healing — with the hope that someone reading might feel a little less alone.
We can’t simply forget our childhood trauma, but we can free ourselves from its hold. We are not what was done to us — we are what we choose to become in spite of it. So, let’s give ourselves permission to feel, to cry, to release. Every tear is a step toward peace. Every moment of self-love is an act of reclaiming our power. Rewrite your story with me — one breath, one act of courage, one day at a time.
Here are 5 Practical Steps I Use to Get Through the Day:
1. Take a few deep breaths
It sounds simple, but it really works. When your mind starts replaying old memories, pause for a second. Breathe in slow, breathe out even slower. Remind yourself — I’m safe right now. The past doesn’t live here anymore.
2. Talk kindly to yourself
Catch those heavy thoughts and respond with love. Try saying, “I’m okay,” or “That was then, this is now.” You’re not ignoring your pain — you’re choosing not to let it run the show today.
3. Write it out and let it go
If something’s weighing on you, grab a notebook and just spill it out — no filter, no judgment. When you’re done, write a line like, “I release this for now.” Then close the book and move on with your day.
4. Ground yourself in the moment
Do something that brings you back to your body — step outside, stretch, light some incense, feel the air, listen to music that calms you down. Little things like that remind you that you’re still here, still growing.
5. Do one thing that feels good
Drink some water, take a warm shower, pray, nap, dance — whatever soothes your spirit. Taking care of yourself is how you start to heal. One small act of love at a time.
Healing doesn’t happen all at once, and that’s okay. Some days you’ll feel light, other days you’ll feel heavy — both are part of the process. Be kind to yourself while you grow. We’ve already survived so much… now it’s time to live.
“You don’t have to have it all figured out. Some days healing simply looks like getting up, breathing deep, and choosing yourself again.” — Unknown
Love & Light,
The Self-Love Goddess Chic✨🌙💯
Founder of Affirmations Oasis®
