You’re Doing Better Than You Think You Are
Somewhere along the way, we started measuring our lives against snapshots of other people’s highlight reels — and then wondering why we feel behind. But here’s the truth: most of us are figuring it out as we go. We’re all a little messy and we are learning in real time. We’re doing the best we can with what we have, where we are.
You don’t need to compete with anyone else’s timeline. You don’t need to rush to catch up. And you definitely don’t need to compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s carefully curated moment. Most of what you see on social media is a lie. Progress doesn’t always look polished. Growth doesn’t always feel good and success doesn’t follow one universal path.
At our core, we’re far more alike than different. We love our families. We want peace, stability, good health, joy, and a sense of purpose. We want to laugh more than we cry and to feel safe being ourselves. That’s not competition — that’s called being human.
Someone else’s “happiest” isn’t your assignment. What fulfills them won’t necessarily fulfill you. There’s an old saying: “What you eat won’t make me sh*t.” And while it may sound blunt, the wisdom is real. Apply it everywhere!
In religion: what feeds someone else’s spirit may not nourish yours.
In relationships: what works for their household may not work in yours.
In politics: their beliefs don’t have to define your values or your worth.
You are allowed to choose what aligns with you — without explanation, without apology, and without comparison.
Life is not a race, performance, or a contest for who looks the most put-together. It’s a lived experience and when you spend too much time people-watching — measuring, judging, wishing — you miss your own moments.
So, stop keeping score and shrinking yourself to fit someone else’s version of success. Don’t assume everyone else has it figured out because they don’t. None of us do and that’s okay because you are doing better than you think you are.
Now stop watching — and start living.
